The statement that caught my attention at the last session was this one. "Assumptions are the most dangerous form of knowledge." The problem is simple. Assumptions are not based on fact, truth or evidence. Assumptions are those dangerous little thoughts that guide you towards believing something that could possibly be disastrous.
We have all heard statements with this dangerous word being summoned for action. I assumed you weren't coming, therefore, I didn't show up. I assumed you didn't mind, therefore, I proceeded with the...(you fill in the blank). I assumed you didn't want that last dab of peach cobbler left in the fridge, therefore, I ate it. You get the point we often assume so we can proceed as if there is fact, truth or evidence to guide us.
When my wife makes peach cobbler if you assume I don't want to eat the last bit you have made a serious mistake. I am rambling on to make this one simple point. If you have to convince yourself (assume) that someone feels a certain way you are much better off to delay your actions until you have some correct information, pretend you are Columbo, Matlock or the Murder she wrote lady but please investigate and don't just play a hunch because at best that is all an assumption is.
Think about these statements and how they might differ. I don't care if Ed wants the last bite of peach cobbler. I deserve the last bite of peach cobbler. I forgot Ed wanted the last bite of peach cobbler. I assumed Ed didn't want the last bite of peach cobbler. In all cases the cobbler is gone but the reasons vary widely.
Here is what you need to take from the post. If you assume I don't want the last bite of peach cobbler, you are wrong. The assumption you made only made it easier to feast on my dessert and gorge yourself.
I'm off to see if I can convince Tricia to make a peach cobbler. My entire line of thought was hijacked right after that example.
Think about that statement and see if you are guilty of assuming things for your own benefit.
